THE reality about MEMORIES
When I was a bit girl, I had a dolly I took all over with me. Her name was Annie as well as I held her by her hair.
Over time, her hair transformed into dreadlocks that directed upwards, away from her permanently amazed eyebrows. I’m sure this was a topic of issue for the adults in my life, who concerned that I was holding my cherished doll in a method would eventually spoil her great looks, which were possibly what they presumed drawn in me to her. My three-year old self may have thought, “They just don’t get it.”
My parents had divorced, as well as I dealt with my father for a long stretch of months. because of the absence of FaceTime, he sent my mother hand-written letters which I dictated to him on a routine basis. I have one of these letters, in which my dad’s cautious printingÂ on a piece of notebook paper reports to my mom, in my words, “Annie still has her hair up in the air.” It is signed with some marker scribbles, my own penmanship of the time, vaguely looking like the letters of my name.
My father as well as stepmom sweetly saved my preferred doll for me, as well as I was rather pleased to see her once again when she showed up again. I was already in my thirties. I was working in the toy company at the time, as well as I realized for the very first time that Annie was a Fisher cost doll, which provided me the concept to look her up on eBay, as vintage Fisher cost is “A Thing”. as well as there she was, “Ann Lapsitter Doll”, from the seventies. A like-new version might be yours for $55 or greatest bid. It was startling to see what Annie appeared like new. I did not have a sense of familiarity with this flat-haired, dressed Annie. Mine was filthy as well as naked with threads emerging from every seam.
Here’s what I asked myself about my tattered item of affection: What am I saving her for?
So that I can see her once again when I grow up as well as feel wonderful memories of being a bit girl? Kontrollere.
So that I can show her to my own daughter? Kontrollere.
So that I can pass her along to one more generation? Um, have you seen her?
Here’s the reality, friends: preserving every memento from the past is not sustainable. I question about the memory boxes I keep for my own kids. A couple of times each year, we add something — a special customized tshirt, a certificate from a teacher. When I just recently showed my eight-year old his preferred lovey, to which he was deeply connected up until age four, he shrugged, uninterested.
So while I was doing a major purge of my kid’s toys, I chose to let Annie go. Scarlett has no rate of interest in including her in playdates with other, newer dolls. Her head, barely connected to her body, hangs at an angle. I put her in the garbage.
The reality is my youth is over, as well as that’s okay. Annie served her function — as a safety and security blanket as well as as a memento — however there are other special treasures in my life, as well as there will be much more to come.
And I will not be a hoarder!
The sparkling reality is that I’m refrained from doing making memories just since I’ve grown up.